Husband having baby with gf...

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Has anyone had this happen? I think because it is about to be April which is when they started dating... .And when we were legally separated, I am breaking down. Hard. He is having a baby with someone else in a month I will probably really be upset then! I am feeling horrible because I could not and did not have kids. I feel like a loser. I can't even think about being with someone else and the lunatic is off having a family with someone else while married to me! This is just horrible, more horrible than I ever imagined.   

[Herodias]

Has anyone had this happen? I think because it is about to be April which is when they started dating... .And when we were legally separated, I am breaking down. Hard. He is having a baby with someone else in a month I will probably really be upset then! I am feeling horrible because I could not and did not have kids. I feel like a loser. I can't even think about being with someone else and the lunatic is off having a family with someone else while married to me! This is just horrible, more horrible than I ever imagined.   

[JerryRG]

I am sorry to hear this Blue.

My ex is with another guy and engaged, you are not a loser unless you believe it. I was negative this way too, putting myself down, calling myself names, I had a lot of self pity as well. I was unaware until I got around healthy people.

My ex wanted a baby to save her from addiction, she abandoned him around age 1, she's all about herself and when the reality hit that she wasn't getting all the attention and our son needed it, she broke.

Nothing will make my ex happy, until she gets the help she needs, she's empty inside and nothing can fill that void until she recovers. She needs attention and she believes a guy can give her that. She's wrong. I'm sure your ex won't be happy and as soon as reality hits him he will start to wander away and seek another source.

I cannot predict the future I can only look at the past and my ex has left a path of distruction from her youth.

Again I struggle with this too knowing my ex is unstable and I'm sure always will be. We had sex 2 times last December and both times she swore she was pregnant then said she would just abort it anyway. She cannot take care of herself let alone another life.

Hang in there Blue

[Herodias]

Thanks Jerry... .

[Narkiss]

He is a loser. What kind of person does this? And it will not be the happy family the you imagine. There will be pain and chaos wherever he goes and whatever he does.

[Tobiasfunke]

Blue, I have 2 kids with mine. Things were not always easy when we were together. Things are really not good now that we are apart. Unbearable some days. My kids are the reason I get out of bed each day. But if it weren't for them I would have a much easier time detaching going completely nc forever and getting the Ef out of dodge. We are in different predicaments and I see your situation through my eyes but maybe you dodged a bullet by not starting a family with your ex.