Mother's denial

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

So I make an arrangement to start coparenting my son last Friday after 3 weeks. I will not have contact with my exBPDgf for any reason and protecting myself for the rest of life from her.

After the keys in the diaper bag crap and now grandmother insists on giving my ex my cell number and that my ex pick him up? NO NO NO! NO CONTACT!

I asked my exs mother if she forgot what the last 4 years have been? That she herself described her daughter as "not like the rest of us people", to stay the hell away from her? That her daughter is sick, she is a pathological liar and keeps everything hidden in the dark?

Does grabdmother live in denial and think I'm forgetting? NO!

Is she sick too, is her whole family corrupt? I can't believe this crap. They are all goofy if they think I'm going to be abused and manipulated by my ex one more time.

It is OVER, keep pushing my buttons and I will walk away again. If you truly believe what a monster my ex is then you deal with her, I made my choice to walk away and I will walk away from my son before I deal with that devil ever again.

[JerryRG]

So I make an arrangement to start coparenting my son last Friday after 3 weeks. I will not have contact with my exBPDgf for any reason and protecting myself for the rest of life from her.

After the keys in the diaper bag crap and now grandmother insists on giving my ex my cell number and that my ex pick him up? NO NO NO! NO CONTACT!

I asked my exs mother if she forgot what the last 4 years have been? That she herself described her daughter as "not like the rest of us people", to stay the hell away from her? That her daughter is sick, she is a pathological liar and keeps everything hidden in the dark?

Does grabdmother live in denial and think I'm forgetting? NO!

Is she sick too, is her whole family corrupt? I can't believe this crap. They are all goofy if they think I'm going to be abused and manipulated by my ex one more time.

It is OVER, keep pushing my buttons and I will walk away again. If you truly believe what a monster my ex is then you deal with her, I made my choice to walk away and I will walk away from my son before I deal with that devil ever again.

[Mutt]

I completely understand. I felt a lot of anger towards my ex in-laws, especially ex-mil because she was helping my ex wife and I suspect that she knew about the boyfriend before I had knowledge. It's hard for people to take ownership of their own stuff and it would mean that the family look at their actions and feelings. It would probably trigger feelings of guilt and shame and some people don't want to deal with those feelings, some of the family members may have little self awareness as well.

I'm sorry that I don't know the back story on your co-parenting agreement. Is it verbal or is it written in a court order? I have 3 kids with my ex and I felt angry, resentful and frustrated at my ex but I wanted to leave my kids out of the divorce because they have unconditional love for their mother and their father. No contact is not a fast and hard rule, it helps to self protect by minimizing contact and by emotionally detaching and it's impossible with co-parenting. I chose minimal contact and didn't share personal information, kept our communication strictly about the kids the kids only and still do 3 years after the break-up.

[JerryRG]

Hello mutt

I don't trust her or myself yet, I still don't know how I got into this relationship and I'm not going back. She's played a million games and i took the bait, I was weak then, little stronger now, I don't even know what she will do next. I've seen suicide threats, drug addictions/withdrawal and everything in between. I honestly think I'm blind

[Mutt]

I can relate with being worried about not being strong enough while I was detaching. I was determined to not go back because my ex had gone too far and I had my limits. I didn't have boundaries in the relationship and boundaries are hard to enforce later on in the relationship if you don't set them at the onset. Some people will lash out when you set them.

I don't even know what she will do next. I've seen suicide threats, drug addictions/withdrawal and everything in between. I honestly think I'm blind

I would stongly suggest that you get a court order if you have not gotten one because they are boundaries that are set by the court and there are repurcusions if your ex partner crosses those boundaries. My ex was angry and kept changing the switch on, switch off times whenever she felt, the kids need a routine and she didn't care about my work schedule. It sounds like you don't trust your ex partner.

Do you mean that you were putting up with bad behaviors in the r/s when you say that you're blind?