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I post a while back, BPxgf ... dated for 2 years she was getting ready to move in with me and she says she's not, then accuses me of cheating , I hold my ground and finally talk on Sunday... I'm still upset at boundaries crossed by her and her accusing of cheating on her... we talk nothing resolved, 2 days later she text me she breaking up and to take her stuff to friends house... she wanted me to marry her that was end of Feb. ... .last month has been back and forth BP behavior whiles she's screaming victim she's online w guy, he's sending flowers... less than 2 weeks after we broke up... cut to chase last lie... still trying to get my stuff kept putting me off... last Thursday ... lectures me on wanting peace bc I'm upset bc I can't get my stuff, found out she's going out with this guy and posted on FB in relationship less than 45 day since it all began. I am heartbroken at her games manipulation and to think... she texts me thursday when I asked are you not talking to me... her reply... I don't think its wise on my part. I'm trying to heal... yea ... .I Know no contact... cut all ties... just feel like such a fool... .
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Hey exhausted, Only you will know when it's time to get off the roller coaster, but I'm unsure whether you are there yet. Are you? Or are you hoping for another recycle? Either way is OK, but I can't tell where you're headed.
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Sorry to hear that man. Sounds like she had your replacement all ready to go (mine was trying to get back with her ex I assume even when we were together). Get through the pain and consider yourself fortunate you didn't marry her or even worse, have kids with her. Disengage (I know it hurts... .) and NO CONTACT... .no matter how hard.
Just tell yourself (every day) they'll be no contact just today. No contact is the only way to disengage.
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thanks for the input... just sad upset you know...
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