I married a BPD man

[Svanish]

I married a man rather quickly and it was all rainbows and butterflies when we got married.  3 months later he had an outburst when I went to dinner with an old guy friend about business while he was overseas.   He wouldn't call me for a week.  He said he wanted a divorce. Then I got upset over him trying to distance me from one of my employees.  We got in a huge fight over that. He goes from I love my wife to everyone he dated was way more interesting. Recently I called him an ahole because he didn't like one of my friends.  He claimed to want another divorce.  He went in and did an accounting of everything since we have been married which is 6 months.   I owe him a ton of money now and have paid him some money and made arrangements for the rest.  He won't come home he sleeps outside the home. I have him the paperwork and he claims that he's getting an apartment and moving his stuff out Monday.   He constantly goes from this is the best relationship to how difficult it is being in a relationship with me.

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hi Svanish and

im very sorry to hear about the circumstances that brought you here, but i am glad that you have found us.

things sound awfully confusing right now. its hard to know where you stand when your partner goes back and forth between telling you this is the best relationship to how difficult it is. people with BPD have a tendency to see people, especially those close to them, in black and white terms with little to no grey in between. that lends some level of explanation but makes it no less painful to live with  .

how are you feeling in the midst of it all? are you able to practice self care and give yourself some attention?

do the two of you share children?

welcome again, Svanish. please keep posting, we are here for you