Yep, saw her homework. There were three times she talked about focusing on Romans 8:28 when I "inconvenienced her".
Basically, instead of lashing out at me, she though to herself "why has God allowed this into my life, for my good".
Romans 8:28New International Version (NIV)
28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.
1. She found a box that I had place in front of her dresser and it perturbed her because she has asked me not to place things there. Instead of lashing out she focused on the verse.
2. She discovered one night that a kid didn't have pants to wear for next day, instead of lashing out she did a load of laundry herself and focused on verse.
3. She focused on verse as she cleaned up garage to get ready for a yard sale. She believes it was my duty to have garage ready for her purposes.
She seems genuine in her efforts and her behavior has changed
The psychologist I see each week cautioned me to focus on actual behavior change and not to be "too ready" for her to "switch back". She acknowledged that I have been burned many times but said that if I focused to much on readiness for "being black again" that my wife would pick up on that.
More in a bit.
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