Dont know what to do

[notguiltyiswear]

In love with amazing woman. To good to be true. She told me intimate secretes. We connected deeply immediately. She recently divorced but just breaking up with old flame. She moved in immediately. I started notice she never acted like previous girlfriends. No lovey dovey stuff period. Then lost our rental and she moved in with her ex husband the day we had to move. She despised him prior. All sudden she started despising me instead. Now months later she moved back in with me and accusing me of stuff never do and past lies I told here over year ago. We can't live in the present we just tehash past faults mistakes and how I hurt her or what I did wrong. No intimacy really from her. Now talking to ex again and doesn't want to even be in same room. Wants space. Been six weeks same time period as prior breakup. She can spew evil comments prob better than devil. Paranoid I talk about her behind her back. She had horrible childhood. I brought up BPD to her and she freaked.

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[C.Stein]

Hello   ,

That is some serious push-pull you are experiencing right now.  I understand how confusing it all is and it leaves you wondering just what the heck is going on.  

Right now try to think of what you need for your own emotional health.  A good place to start is by reading and learning about BPD.  There are many excellent articles and workshops on this site that you can use.  If your relationship is to move forward again, if that is even an option right now, a good place to start is by learning about validation and setting boundaries.

Please feel comfortable sharing your story and asking questions.  It helps to make sense of the madness when you write it all down.

Stay strong