I want so badly to stay but she tells me to go

[Oncebitten]

Advice, thoughts, input needed.

I know that pwBPD fear both abandonment and engulfment.  So how do I walk that fine line with my GF given our current situation.  We are in flux at the moment, still talking still seemingly trying to work through our issues (well 1 of us is anyways)

I was berated the other day for giving her space when she asked for it because I should have  known how she was feeling and should have been there despite being told to go away.   

Do I simply have to figure out how to always be there for her without, being overbearing?

She knows that I am always available, and yet she refuses to call me when she needs me... .I have no idea how to even begin to address that.  Do I just keep reaching out to her periodically?  Or do I just stop and let her come to me?

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