Yup, that's borderline for you. It's all about them. Indeed one has to learn a good ability to self-care because it is like asking an emotional three year old to meet your needs. Good that you are reading Curiously! How are you feeling now with a few day's reflection behind you? . khib
I'm feeling better. I reflected more about myself than her now and why I get into these relationships (both with friendships too). The need to be needed is what I need to work on. I'm so used to focusing on others to feel good and it's why it worked out pretty well at the beginning. But as soon as I had opened up about my own insecurities/worries, I could not expect to be taken care of in the same way. I was always hoping that every action I took would then lead to a change in her behaviour but it didn't. The bottom line is no amount of hope and love can change someone elses behaviour, they need to want to... and that I need to stop with the caretaking behaviour in order to feel worth being with. There are people who can reciprocate and she's just not one of them.
