I'm not sure she is BPD but lots of dysfunctional FOO stuff though.
She wants to be alone for an undisclosed amount of time.
Hi Tomzxz,
Sorry, I'm confused. Not to be in any way unwelcoming, but this is a forum for people in different kinds of relationships with others who have BPD, so we're all looking for ways to either manage those kinds of relationships or exit them or stay exited and process the effects they have had on us. I'm trying to use my own ex-relationship as a learning opportunity - to learn about myself, as are the vast majority of others here.
There is a lot of experience and expertise here, but I am not really sure why you are posting your question here? How do want the folks here to help?
I want to give her space yet I still want to let her know I care without pushing her away further.
Sure, and that would be a nice thing to do. Leave options and doors open. How about just saying that and then backing off and keeping in light and friendly contact, if she appears to welcome it.
You could try looking through some of the resources and communication tools available here and picking some that apply. There are lots there that are good for any kind of relationship, not exclusively for someone who is involved with a disordered individual. Scroll up and see the "Insights" and "Tools" sections.
It does not sound, from what you've said, that you're dealing with someone who has a mental health issue. Lots of people have commitment problems (the term gets throw around a lot and people mean different things by it), or want to prioritize something in their lives over something else. It sounds like she wants some time - there is nothing wrong with that. It sounds like she has boundaries, that sounds healthy to me.