How many BPD exes physically abused ?

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Just wondering how many of your BPD exes actually physically abussed you ?

My BPD exgf hit me on 3 occasions twice in the back when I tried to walk away from a heated argument and the third time when she was 7 months pregnant that was far the worst time she done it . Punched me in the face 5 times repeatedly fracturing my cheek bone bursting blood vessels in my left eye and left me with the biggest black eye I've ever had . Still have a tiny bit of permanent bruising under my eye now that was last Xmas 2015 .

[Splitblack4good]

Just wondering how many of your BPD exes actually physically abussed you ?

My BPD exgf hit me on 3 occasions twice in the back when I tried to walk away from a heated argument and the third time when she was 7 months pregnant that was far the worst time she done it . Punched me in the face 5 times repeatedly fracturing my cheek bone bursting blood vessels in my left eye and left me with the biggest black eye I've ever had . Still have a tiny bit of permanent bruising under my eye now that was last Xmas 2015 .

[Sadly]

Not mine, but I did have a boyfriend many years ago who used to physically abuse me quite badly. This may sound weird but if I had to choose I would rather that than the terrible emotional abuse my ExBPD partner has put me through. I know we shouldn't put up with either but that would be mine if there was no option.

[fromheeltoheal]

I'm sorry that happened SB4G, and that is domestic violence and physical abuse.  It's helpful at this point to look at what we did mentally to make that OK, what kind of mental gymnastics and justifications did we use to accept that behavior and stay anyway?

[Sadly]

Hi again SB4G
It sounds awful, I'm so sorry. Did she ever show remorse at all? It's not something you could hide either. Did she want to care for you when she had calmed down. How did she ask you to explain it away to other people. My heart goes out to you at the thought that the person carrying your child could do this to you 

[JerryRG]

My exgf punched me the very first time, she grabbed my steering wheel the next time, tried driving me into parked cars. Put her back on her door and kicked the c###p out of me, threw her pop in my face then a bag of chips before I could find a safe place to stop the car.

Third time backhanded me across my chest several times. When she was just beginning pregnancy she threw my whole bathroom at me, hit my ankle with a huge bottle of shampoo.

She was smart enough not to leave behind strong evidence of physical abuse.

[Hlinthewiking]

Wow that's an awful story, so sorry you had to be thru that.

My ex did countless times, but I guess I can only remember the ones she actually was able to hurt me. She hit me with her cellphone in my head several times, but never was that bad, just hurt and maybe a bruise. She broke her big hair brush in my arm in a way it was indented to my arm for the whole day. She also hit me in the groin 2-3 times, one time she did it with her phone and I fell on my knees and almost broke my tv, that time was the first time I got mad at her for hitting me, it could have been pretty serious. She threw her phone at me so hard one day it bounced of the ceiling, I was actually more worried about her and her phone that time then myself, I know how much she likes her phone, for her to do that she really was out of control. She bit my arm once that she almost took a piece of and left her teeth marks for 2-3 weeks. She pinched my arm in a way no one even did, she took a piece of my skin doing so when I tried to touch her when I was driving. She stabbed my hand when I was driving with her pointy earrings. Last week we saw each other she punched my face so hard she bent my titanium glasses and gave me a real bad bruise on my left temporal, it got swollen and hurt for a couple days.

She told me once to keep knives away from her and I had to stop her a couple times, not sure if she would have stabbed me, but once in the kitchen I felt like I should restrain her.

[elfyguy]

Last week we saw each other she punched my face so hard she bent my titanium glasses and gave me a real bad bruise on my left temporal, it got swollen and hurt for a couple days.

Did you call the police on her?

[Hlinthewiking]

   elfyguy

No, I took a deep breath and tried to think about what just had happened, didn't say anything for a couple minutes, she stood quiet on a corner using her phone, I think she was scared about her own actions, it was very impulsive. I felt bad for her, I still loved her, I let it go, I just told her that the next time she touched me we would be over. I considered driving her home, but that would be the end and it would only make me sadder, I wanted to be with her. The fact that she showed remorse that time gave me faith and at the same time depressed me, because she still blamed me for getting hit.

I don't think I could call the police on her, if she stabbed me I think I'd try to hide it and go the a hospital then tell it was an accident, unless I knew I could get her treatment instead of her going to jail. I don't wish her anything bad and I could never do anything that would put her in harms way, I couldn't live with myself if I did.

Dysfunction both ways, she was the abusing child, I was just trying to ignore the bad things and wait for the good things to come back.

[Pretty Woman]

Mine only did once, when she was disassociating. She showed up at my house to drop something off (after a discard) and had no idea I was home. When she saw I was (I opened my door wondering what the commotion was... .she was throwing chairs against the side of my house) she stormed inside demanding her house key and her "security".

I honestly did not know where I had put her key. She proceeded to drag me up the stairs by my hair and spit in my face. Later, she told me she almost head butted me.

Yeah, that's love. I took her back after that, after she ran off to her ex in another state for three weeks. She left me one more time after that for a mutual friend and I took her back.

What a dope I was.

Disassociating or not, abuse is abuse.

[Splitblack4good]

Hi again SB4G
It sounds awful, I'm so sorry. Did she ever show remorse at all? It's not something you could hide either. Did she want to care for you when she had calmed down. How did she ask you to explain it away to other people. My heart goes out to you at the thought that the person carrying your child could do this to you 

She did highly regret it and I could tell guilt was eating away at her everytime she looked at my black eye while it was healing she never hit me again after that either .