Refusal to Therapy = Grounds for Divorce

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I've been in this relationship 2 years now, 1 year married. I've tried, and tried and tried to fill the emotional void my wife has to no avail.

I have talked her into seeing a therapist, but she insists on going alone. I fear she'll not go. If she does not, I feel that I've done all that I can do at this point and that there's not real reason to continue trying to keep this marriage intact. Am I being unreasonable?

[Moosie]

I've been in this relationship 2 years now, 1 year married. I've tried, and tried and tried to fill the emotional void my wife has to no avail.

I have talked her into seeing a therapist, but she insists on going alone. I fear she'll not go. If she does not, I feel that I've done all that I can do at this point and that there's not real reason to continue trying to keep this marriage intact. Am I being unreasonable?

[formflier]

  Am I being unreasonable?

Yes... .

With the information presented... .I think this is way too soon.  There are lots of aspects of your relationship to work through.



I'm glad you have found us, because we can help you work through those issues.  We won't make a choice for you, but can help you examine the different perspectives.

Can you describe what it looks and sounds like when you try to fill the emotional void?  Lots of details there can help us point you in the right direction.

Agreeing to go to therapy is a big step.  I would recommend you leave this alone for a while.  Let your wife sort our her issues... .you can sort out yours.

FF

[Grey Kitty]

What therapy your partner is going to is a secondary thing from my point of view.

Some people improve without therapy... .Other people spend years in therapy and it doesn't seem to have any real results... .Others start then stop or change therapists before they get anywhere.

What matters is her behavior--how she treats you.

What is she doing that has you thinking about a divorce?