Do your BPD friends encourage their behavior

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

With me and my BPD things were great between us but when other people got involved became hell

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With me and my BPD things were great between us but when other people got involved became hell

[ShadowA]

They will, until they realize also that she's a bit of nutz.  Then they were slowly depart, she'll slowly paint them black... and if you were once important, she may come back to you and ask you to save her.


Also if any BPD's friends are guys. Watch out, as Bpd's always scout for replacement. They can't stand being alone.

[Warcleods]

Absolutely.

Let's be candid here.  We are naturally attracted to people like us.  I have some interpersonal issues that drew me towards a uBPD partner but after I came to my senses, I ended it.  The yo-yo effect wore me out.  The lies made me uncomfortable.  The manipulation turned me off and eventually and most importantly, her values and vision for life have been and probably always will be guided by pure reaction to avoid confronting emotion. 

The sad part of this whole situation is that these people create a world within themselves that not only unattainable for themselves, but then it shapes a false desire from within themselves which serves a template for who they want to be involved with.  For example, my ex uBPD convinced herself that if only someone could love her, then all of her suffering would go away.  Well guess what, I provided that and then some and it was never good enough.  She was opinionated about what was and was not attractive within people and it was all superficial.  She never once considered what was in the heart of someone.  I'm continually disgusted that I found that even remotely appealing.