Why are BPD people more attractive & sexy?

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She's a stunning beauty, with no sense of self and identity.

I'm not sure about that. Some BPD people may be beautiful and totally empty. My ex struggles, but she has a kind of identity in her savant traits, which persist in spite of everything. I could live with the needs of a savant. In fact, I fell in love with her because of her gifts. But the BPD is too much for me.

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She's a stunning beauty, with no sense of self and identity.

I'm not sure about that. Some BPD people may be beautiful and totally empty. My ex struggles, but she has a kind of identity in her savant traits, which persist in spite of everything. I could live with the needs of a savant. In fact, I fell in love with her because of her gifts. But the BPD is too much for me.

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My BPD was pretty, but in a very plain way. I would not classify her as inherently "sexy." In fact, she looked better without makeup on. As far as sex goes, I couldn't tell you. She claimed to have a high sex drive but during the year we were together she wouldn't let me do anything beyond hold her hand (and even that was a struggle). The most I did with her was kiss her on the cheek.

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Sweet tooth
You were very fortunate to stop there. Wish I had just done hand holding. Sadly many of us got in too deep (no pun intended) and got hooked into the craziness borderlines bring on. Once we are in the "try to fix them" mode, there is no hope, just frustration and pain.
At least in the future, I will be able to spot someone who is borderline from a mile away. Most of you will too. Any sign of splitting, anger, name calling and nastiness from a new prospective mate, and we will run for the hills. So maybe something good did come out of the nightmare. We learned we are codependent and will not try and fix or have attachment to crazy people.

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I was discarded on March and still can't detach. Every time I feel better I get fake phone calls or Fake FB requests that drag me through the mud.

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Sweet Tooth sorry to hear you are still struggling and can't be completely NC. Here is what I did when my exBPD kept hounding me. I used it to help me. If she had split white as happened before, I might have sucked in and gone back. Fortunately she stayed nasty as yours is doing. Use that to reinforce your awareness that she is truly rotten and see the negatives in her to keep you thinking you did the right thing to cut the cord. No matter who left or what they are doing, these negative behaviors help me KNOW that I am glad she is gone and the relationship is history. You know that these fake FB posts etc are fake. So use them to keep you angry. I find anger can be useful to help you not get taken advantage of any longer.