I'm angry. And delighted to be so

[La Carotte]

The title says it all really.

I've felt for a long time that if I could just be angry at  some of the nasty cruel hurtful things she's continuing to do, even though we've been broken up for three months, then I'd be a step forward... .and today I'm there! What she's done and said today isn't nearly as bad as some of the many many other things, and it's not anything I want to describe or talk about, because I don't see any point, but the point for me is - instead of my usual "Oh poor her, it must be awful to feel so out of control, or to truly believe those things about the one you love etc etc" which is what I usually tell myself to allow her off the hook, today I felt fury and loathing and disgust that anyone would say and do those things, no matter what,  and more importantly, I had no need to explain why she was wrong or unfair or anything, my sole thought was, "Leave me alone! Stay out of my life! I do not want you!"

I just wanted to share this moment with you all as it feels very positive to me... .

[Lonely_Astro]

Grieving is a tough process.  Embrace the anger, but don't let it consume you.  To many get trapped in the anger phase.  Trust me, I've been there and done that before.  Emotions will ebb and flow for awhile.  Feel the feelings, move forward when you're ready... .at your own pace. 

It's great you're making progress!  Keep up the good work.  Each day away is a day further from the FOG. One day, the anger will be gone and indifference will replace it. 

Keep growing

[londons]

i am happy for you!  that is where we all strive to be eventually.  let the light shine in!

[khibomsis]

At long last FIT! The worm turns. Yes, the anger will burn out eventually,and when that happens you will move on to greater things - like loving yourself kindly and consistently.  But in the meantime I hope you are warm and toasty at the flames of your wrath   , khib