I suspect my daughter has BPD

[Dellam]

M 34 year old daughter exhibits signs of BPD. She has rages over very small things, which she can carry on for weeks. I am then evil, nasty and wicked. No memory of me being anything other than an awful mother. She gets very angry if I go away on holiday for a week.  She smokes cannabis to help her "keep calm" and sleep. she has done this for years. She is so very angry and nothing I say or do can help her see past her anger and resentfulness. For instance, I could not buy her the £350 trainers she asked me for. Next thing she said she took herself to A&E with suspected pneumonia which she said she had as a result of not having the right shoes. I am always calm and try to think about every word I say. I am desperate with worry for her. I miss my lovely daughter, who seems to have disappeared.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Mutt]

Hi Deliam,


 
I'm sorry to hear that. It's heart breaking when a loved one with  bpdfamily seem completely different mood and personality wise. I couldn't talk to my ex wife because she was so hostile towards, that took several years though. Being split black doesn't happen all at once.

A pwBPD have a difficult time seeing people that can an integrated whole. A good person has bad qualities and a bad person has good qualities, the psychological term is called splitting.

BPD BEHAVIORS: Splitting

I suggest read as much as you can about the disorder, you'll quickly see the benefits and become proficient over time. You're not alone. You'll find the lessons on the right side of the board.