Welcome Samc!
Thank you so much for taking that first brave step to post!
You did a fine job, and I'm so glad you've come to join our online family. There is a ton of information for you to pour through. A great place for you to start is the list to the right ------------>> >> Each sentence you click on opens up to a larger description.
My mom was an uBPD too. I can understand the need you had to not have contact anymore. It is okay and you don't need to feel any guilt over that decision. There are many other members here who have also gone that same route. I was very low contact with my mom until her death. That worked best for me, and each decision is based on what the indiviual needs.
I'm feeling pretty down and depressed at the moment and I went to a counselor but she was less than sympathetic. I'd really love to know if anyone has any advice about how they coped and also how they found a counselor who understood their predicament.
Not all T (therapists) are aware of BPD, and it isn't always a good match with the first T you choose. Sometimes you may have to do some shopping to find a good match, but be sure that they understand BPD. I know other members have gone another time or two with a new T in order to see if they'll be able to make it work, but some switch immediately. Do you live in the States or overseas? I know in the States there are links to help find counselors in your area.
who here has had a similar experience, how has it affected you and how have you overcome it? I have real confidence issues which have affected my ability to make friends, my ability to trust my partner and my ability to be satisfied in my work life.
You are among family here, a safe place, and we all have stories similar to yours. You are an adult child survivor of a parent with BPD, and there are most definitely issues we are all working through as we journey to heal from the wounds that affect our ability to live full lives. Have you ever read the book
Surviving a Borderline Parent by Kimberlee Roth? It has been a most helpful book for me, and is one of my favorites. There are a lot of helpful exercises in it as well. Sometimes I've used it in session time with my T. What you've expressed as concerns have been things that have affected me too. With time and work it gets better. You are not alone.
Take this journey one step at a time, but you've taken the most important step... .the first one.
Wools
