Who Gives Up First?

[rosesarered777]

Who usually abandons the relationship first? The BPD or Non?

From my experience's,  it is the person with BPD. Whenever it has become too serious, she quits the relationship. She used to be aware of this but I am not sure if she still is.

[Curiously1]

Depends on the relationship.
There were times where I had second thoughts but I still had a hard time letting go once I got attached.
I don't think I would have let go of her.
I became too flawed in her eyes.
She gave up.

[rosesarered777]

I don't think I would have let go of her.
I became too flawed in her eyes.
She gave up.

Same here. Was this long ago for you? It's been six months and she is with someone new and gave me a restraining order.

[Curiously1]

It has been 6-7months for me too since our last break up. Normally she comes back but she managed to find somebody else. One month after our break up they declared their love she told me.
I am sorry to hear you got a restraining order. I was threatened once for a restraining order but never went fully through with it.