I am so confused, I don't know how to handle this anymore

[Bailey2017]

I am so excited to have found this website.  It gives me hope that I can find others dealing with the stress of living with a BPD.  A friend told me to buy the book Stop Walking on Eggshells and that has really helped, but I am looking for others who live with the daily stress of not knowing how to ask questions or answer questions in the right tone.  I am not even me anymore.

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[Tattered Heart]

Welcome to the board. I think many of us have been there and that is why we found this board. Our pwBPD can consume our lives and we look back years later and wonder what happened to us? Where did I go? How did my life get this bad? Why did I allow this to happen?

Lots of great resources here. I would suggest beginning with the lessons on the right. What kinds of things are going on in your relationship?

[livednlearned]

Hi Bailey2017,

Welcome and hello 

What are some examples of how you ask questions, how you answer, and your partner's response.

Are there conflicts that tend to trigger him repeatedly?

How long have you two been together?

LnL