Hi 624,
I'd like to welcome you to bpdfamily, I'm glad that you found us, you're right it helps to talk to people that can relate with you and offer you guidance and support. I hope that you reconsider couselling or therapy, the best combo is seeing a T concurrently with a support group.
He craves appreciation but nobody ever appreciates him enough so in turn it makes it hard to show appreciation because of how he acts.
It helps to read as much as you can about the disorder. A pwBPD have a difficult time seeing people as integrated whole with both good and bad qualities at the same time, good people have bad qualities and good people have bad qualities, a pwBPD have all or nothing thinking you're all good or all bad. I can relate with how painful it is when our pwBPD don't see the good in us, it helps to understand why our pwBPD behave the way that they do so that we can weather these storms. A pwBPD will split the people that they care about most.
BPD BEHAVIORS: Splitting