I want my husband love and honesty back

[Amrinaziz]

Hi... .My name is Amrin and I m very frustrated because of my relationship I want to get my husbands love and honesty back our relationship is about to finish and it's all because of me... .And also my husband. I hurted him a lot and now he is so angry that he is not ready to forgive me dispite I apologised him a many times... .He was good lover but my district ice behaviour made him go far from me and I know he removed me from his heart either... .I want his love and honesty back I don't know what to do... .Can anyone help me plz

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[stayingsteady]

Hi Amrin!

There are a lot of people on this site that are here for you.  Going through a situation like yours can be extremely difficult and many of us have gone through similar ones. 

You may want to review the articles on the right.  There are plenty of tools and lessons that can help you learn skills and techniques that can help improve your relationship.

When going through a situation such as yours the best things to do are often also the hardest.  The best I have found are allowing personal space and being patient with your significant other.  Providing validation can also go a long way.

Wishing you the best,

- StayingSteady

[Mutt]

Hi Amrinaziz, 



I'm sorry to hear that. I can see how emotionally distressing that would feel when our partner won't forgive us after apologizing. I'm glad that you decided to join us, it helps to talk to people that can relate with you and offer you guidance and support. You're not alone. This is a platform where you can share your feeling and thoughts without judgment or invalidation. I hope to read more of your posts.

[Meili]

I want to join the others in welcoming you to the  bpdfamily.

I can hear the frustration in your post. I'm sorry for what you're going through but glad you have found a community where many of us have been through similar experiences, and we can learn from each other.

You said that you hurt your husband a lot. If you feel comfortable enough, can you tell us more about that?

Also, what is it about your husband that makes you feel that he suffers from BPD? There is an article here, I think it's Borderline Personality Disorder, but how can I know? that may help.

Please tell us more when you're comfortable doing so, and check with us to let us know how things are going for you.