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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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Author Topic: I knew a separation agreement was going to be a waste of time.  (Read 339 times)
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« on: February 06, 2017, 10:09:42 PM »

I guess you can call it one last trick he had to play with me.

I remember being so lost and hurt trying to figure out how to be a single mother (first time mom) and go co-patent with someone that wants to die everyday.

I remember him begging me not to take him to court, that he things I should get sole custody and we should do a separation agreement.

Well for me co-parenting was talking to him daily begging him not to kill himself for our child's sake, telling him why I can't give our child to him alone. Taking his emotional abuse (I blame the post pregnancy hormones, I usually don't take BS from anyone) listen to his reasons why he cuts himself but doesn't tell his therapist and so on.

That's not the life for me and our son deserves something more healthy. That's NOT co patenting. That's A whole a lot of unresolved self issues he needs to work on and then maybe just maybe he won't know how to be completely there for a child.

Till then he's not safe even though he's high functioning.


But now he doesn't want to sign the agreement And now my lawyer wants to take it to court.

If you believe in God or whatever you respect fully believe in please pray for me I son deserves to have a healthy upbringing.

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