Hey Charlie3236: It might be helpful for you to have a few "I" Statements handy.
I found the 19-minute video at the link below a helpful tutorial for using "I" Statements:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RDExNRJCUp0The template and sample below could be helpful as well.How To Use I-Statements:
Start by identifying how you feel: mad, sad, frustrated, etc.
I feel __________
State the reason you feel this way or what happened that led you to those feelings.
when __________
Try to identify the reason the person’s actions led to those feelings for you.
because __________
Let the person know what you want instead.
I would like __________ .
Example:
Your spouse snaps at you during dinner and it really hurt your feelings. Here’s an I-statement to use with this scenario:
I feel hurt when you snap at me like that because I worked hard to cook this nice dinner for us. I would like you to use nicer words and tone with me, and to know if something happened today that has led you to be in a bad mood.
Just wondering if anyone has a quick/short response to let her know to stop where she's heading or communication will end here until she can be kind & respectful again... .One that I can use every time but will not set her off on a verbal text barrage!
Check out the video and the template above. Additionally, a couple of samples appear below. They might give you an idea about a type of statement that might apply to your situation. What might your version be? Take a crack at it and see what you come up with.
Sample 1I love you and I want our conversations to be respectful and supportive. I can see that you are having a bad day. Therefore, I'm going to end this conversation. I look forward to speaking to you when we can both enjoy a respectful conversation.
Sample 2I want to have a respectful conversation with you, but I can tell you are upset. I'm going to end this conversation for now. I look forward to (talking, texting, exchanging emails), when you are feeling better.