Why can’t my hurt be acknowledged?

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My BPD partner is a truck driver so away all week. We had plans to spend the day he got home together (his suggestion) but then he sent a text saying his mate had asked him over for a drink so he was going there, I was invited too. He doesn’t make friends easy so I know he would have been excited by the invitation. I’m heading overseas next weekend for a month so it really hurt that he cancelled our plans without even a discussion. If he had called we could have worked around him having a drink & spending time together. I voiced to him that I am often left feeling I’m not a priority in his life. It really hurt he changed plans for the last day we were to have alone before my trip. How do others get around this? Are you often left being treated like time together is not a priority? . We currently live apart (my choice) but have been seeing each other for 5 months after a 4yr break. He wants to live together but I feel it pointless unless we can both learn to deal with issues arising. Instead of acknowledging my hurt he has seen it as me not wanting him to spend time with mates. I have always supported him hanging out with mates except on this occasion.

[AnnieAngelina]

My BPD partner is a truck driver so away all week. We had plans to spend the day he got home together (his suggestion) but then he sent a text saying his mate had asked him over for a drink so he was going there, I was invited too. He doesn’t make friends easy so I know he would have been excited by the invitation. I’m heading overseas next weekend for a month so it really hurt that he cancelled our plans without even a discussion. If he had called we could have worked around him having a drink & spending time together. I voiced to him that I am often left feeling I’m not a priority in his life. It really hurt he changed plans for the last day we were to have alone before my trip. How do others get around this? Are you often left being treated like time together is not a priority? . We currently live apart (my choice) but have been seeing each other for 5 months after a 4yr break. He wants to live together but I feel it pointless unless we can both learn to deal with issues arising. Instead of acknowledging my hurt he has seen it as me not wanting him to spend time with mates. I have always supported him hanging out with mates except on this occasion.

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