Do you have it in writing that he said he doesn't want to see your son until an agreement is signed?
The reason I ask is because he could go to court claiming you've been keeping your son from him. It would probably be a good idea to send him, through legal channels, a letter asking him if he'd like to set up a temporary visitation schedule until an agreement is signed. Unfortunately, it is on you to prove that you've tried to help him keep contact with your son. The fact that a father would seek sole custody why intentionally staying away in the meantime only makes sense in all-or-nothing BPD thinking and won't make sense in court.
Yes I have printed out the time when he said he wasn't going to come until agreement is final, I also have text messages printed out when he told me that he cannot come over (sadly there was a time where I begged him to come and see his child after he said he wasn't going to come tell the agreement is over) because he's not sure what he's capable of doing(eg, losing it again and as usual), and I have printed out some emails when he told me he wanted to see our son (after-the-fact but he told me that he's not doing well) but then I told him that he is right and that we should wait till the agreement is over and he agreed.
For the most part let me know what you think about this. I think he decide to stay away because he knows something is seriously wrong with him and he didn't want to further mess up his chances of getting full custody, like losing it again or more domestic violence situations or physically harming the child. The way that I got to know him I guess he was just trying to play his cards right. That is really selfish and he is not thinking about our child at all he's thinking about himself.
Right it makes absolutely no sense, I would love for them to have a relationship as long as it's supervised and I'm not there (visitation center's)
I showed my lawyers the printer and he says that is good enough to crush anything he has to say about me Alienating our son from him. I also have emails of me offering to FaceTime between him and her son and me offering pictures because he wouldn't visit