What helped you the most to begin healing

[JsMom]

I'm just starting to look at tools and info. I'm not techy so it'll take me a bit. I'm just now accepting my part on a deep level, for my sons bpd. Yes, there are genetic components. Being my dad and my son's dad. But because of my own wounds/issues whatever. I raised him in a home that wasn't emotionally safe for him. Top that off his babysitter (a friend and her husband) molested him. I've tried to make up for the pain I caused by rescuing.... It hasn't worked, healed, made up for  or changed his pain. What do I do that honors him and takes care of myself too?  I'll keep reading topics on this site. I appreciate any tips, advice or a direction where to start. Thank you.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[SoVeryConfused]

I highly suggest Family Connections. It's a 12-week class that's free for those with loved ones that have emotional dysregulation from NEA-BPD.
It's quite good - but there's a long wait list to get in.

If you can, I would suggest therapy with someone who is knowledgable of BPD. It requires behavior on our part that goes against everything in us as moms. I hope that's helpful.

No parent is perfect. We have all made mistakes. We can only accept that and try to improve today. 

[JsMom]

Thank you, I really appreciate your taking the time to reply, also your recommendations, and support.