GET THE BPD MONSTER AWAY FROM YOU AND DONT LOOK BACK

[DonewithBPD]

My daughter who will be 33 in a few months time did not even complete High School.   Drugs and Boys were more interesting.   I was a Registered Nurse and her father an Engineer.  Neither of us could control her but boy, did she control us with her incessant demands for money - vanity being her obsession.   Her father has gone.   I have bought her a car and supported her on her never-ending wild goose changes.   I will NOT buy the story that BPD is due to childhood abuse.  Her vicious anger is out of control. I live on the coast in South Africa.   She disappeared inland to Johannesburg.   She called the police and an ambulance to tell that I was committing suicide.   I was asleep.  I had not spoken to her for a month.   Her threats and "I know you hate me" are never-ending.   I have started to have chest pain.   Her insults are unbelievable.   She is leaving my house in ten days and expects me to sign a lease for an apartment for her in Cape Town.   She cant stay still for five minutes.  She has told social workers that I am neglectful, abusive, an "alcoholic" and that I groomed her into prositution.   She has told people that I am a ketamine addict.  Then an Opiod addict.   I dont use any medication besides a headache tablet now and again.   Don't waste your time sobbing into your tea because the BPD Monster has gone.   Block all contact and get on with what's left of her life - the pieces she did not manage destroy.    Last night she came into my room holding her phone - she had downloaded an app - and asked me if I knew my IQ -- I do - 135 - she claimed to have an IQ140.   This from an idiot who can barely write.    Long story short - she is now going to work as a stripper.   Not my idea but at 18 she can do what she wants.   She has destroyed my name in the small town that I  live in, I have lost friends because I kept rescuing her.  She has even beaten up my friends - one a 63 year old woman like myself.   Dont look for answers.   Get the BPD Monster the hell away from you, move if you can, change your phone numbers and never look back.  

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[SuperDaddy]

Hi DonewithBPD ,

Yes, there are people with BPD that can't identify anything wrong in their upbringing. A girl even said she had excellent parents. Anyway, it's very unfair to receive such insults from her, and you don't have to be there for her when she is already an adult.

But now I'll be very honest with you. I don't think I would ever refer to any of my kids as a monster, unless they were really doing heinous crimes of serial killing. Certainly I would never call any of my kids an idiot publicly. If she is not smart, then maybe she has brain damage, which would not be her fault.

This study found that 81% of BPD patients had a history of brain injury (either developmental, acquired, or both), compared to only 22% of control patients with other psychiatric diagnoses.

Also, I would not be angry at my daughter for being a stripper. I would just get worried about her.