Welcome KV I have to commend you on your good attitude and approach in handling your diagnosis.
I guess I want to ask two questions:
1) anyone know if this is genetic at all?
2) Can anyone one on here give me some pointers to the behaviour that has affected them from their parent/carer having BPD? I want to make sure that i really keep an eye on myself with new skills that I am learning.
You say your aunt and uncle were diagnosed with BPD and likely your mom had it. When others in a family have a mental illness/disorder, there can be a genetic predisposition for you to have a mental disorder, BPD or traits of BPD. BPD can also evolve from your environment or a combination of genetics and environment.
My dad had BPD traits. And my sister seems to be a high functioning BPD. The death of both our parents brought out BPD in my sister and she split me black.
Growing up with a dad with BPD traits, I'd have to say his rages and extremely critical nature had an effect on me. When I was young, I used to be afraid of my dad. I didn't want to bring friends home, because I was afraid he would rage and embarrass me. Being too critical, can turn children into extreme "people pleasers". The "silent treatment" was, also, something my dad did that was disturbing.
You say you make huge efforts to hide your extreme emotions from your daughter. What strategy has worked best for you, when your emotions are getting out of control? What are your strongest BPD traits?
I wish you well with your course. Your good attitude is a good first step towards success.