Quiet BPD - need help understanding

My long distance gf with quiet BPD broke up with me suddenly over text last week citing that the long distance was "too much" for her. When I asked her to call me she said that a call would be "breaking her boundaries". She was very apologetic but cold/short with her responses. The next day I awoke and found she had blocked me on almost everything. I made the unfortunate mistake of chasing her for a week. I spammed her with texts, a burner, and a message to her friend assuring her that I wished her the best and wanted to just get closure. Unfortunately, the last communication I received from her was when I reached out on secondary account and told her "I am reading up on the BPD discard and am hear whenever you want to talk" to which she replied "I'm sick of people attributing my breakups to my mental condition" before another block on that account. I took to Google AI as a last resort to try and gain some knowledge where it has assured me that maintaining no contact will result in her eventually unblocking and attempting a charm. However, the more I read into more specific cases, it seems that with Quiet BPD, there is no charm. And besides, her reasoning for ending things and blocking is actually reasonable: long distance is hard.

I am now on day 9 of indefinite no contact. My question is: does no contact work on a person with quiet BPD the same way it does with regular BPD? What are the chances I ever speak to her again? She told me things that she assured me she has never told any ex, and I am certain I am her favorite person. What are my chances that she gets in contact with me? Should I break no contact and reach out eventually? I would love some insight from someone who was dealt with Quiet BPD. Thank you!



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