Boy do I hear you! Being lied about without JADEing is so hard! What I ask myself is what my goal is, what I want. Nobody's stopping us from defending ourselves. We just have to know the consequences and ask ourselves if that's what we want.
I don't know whether the anger ever goes away, but I know that in general our feelings come and go and come and go and change in intensity and frequency.
You are right. Also, if I were to react I don’t want to deal with the fallout. She is meaner than I’ve ever been and has more energy than I do. Based on things she’s already done to me and other people tell me loud and clear that reacting a) isn’t worth it and b) threatens my safety. She’s already proven she’s willing to cross the line whereas I’m definitely not.
It’s just frustrating that I have no voice in the old typical way - reacting. I DO have a voice in that I have the ability to keep myself and my household safe from her without reacting in a way I might have years ago. I still just find it difficult to sit by while she lies on the internet and to people we both know. I’ve been doing just that for years now but it still aggravates me.
