Husband has narcissistic traits

[Randi Kreger]

OK, I am making a first post.

My name is Randi Kreger and I am the author of the well-known book stop walking on eggshells.

My latest book is stop walking on eggshells for partners. It is specifically written for partners, and includes information such as: why you chose each other, what you bring to the relationship, why your partner behaves the way they do, whether or not you are at fault or are lacking, and how to make decisions about the relationship. I also go over  communications and setting limits.

I wrote stop walking on eggshells in 1997. The partners book has 30 more years of thinking behind it and really represents my best work.

But that’s not why I’m here.

Narcissism is comorbid with BPD. Over the years, I began to realize how the two disorders interact together.

I finally came to the awakening that my husband had traits of narcissistic personality disorder. He didn’t have a false self. He was not grandiose. He was empathetic to other people, in fact, he really didn’t have a lot of narcissistic traits.

Except… He always has to be right. He can not  listen and consider another person‘s point of view. His view of reality is always the correct one. My reality is considered unimportant.

So that’s what I’m trying to deal with right now. Any ideas?

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[Notwendy]

One thought that comes to mind is the possibility he might be dismissive avoidant since he doesn't have the full NPD picture? The always having to be right, dismissing other points of view can be part of that.