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In a bad way
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At the end of my tether.
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February 19, 2017, 07:18:13 PM »
I am so at the end I read posts on here and want to add to them but my thoughts exceed my writing speed.
I feel done.
A ll hope has gone, I am empty and exhausted and can't even express myself, I am too depressed.
Maybe try again tomorrow.
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February 19, 2017, 07:29:46 PM »
I'm sorry that you are having a tough time today. When I start feeling this way, I watch a funny movie or spend some time outdoors playing with my dog. I try to find something that will take my mind off of her, even if it's just for a moment. Hang in there. Get plenty of rest and do something you enjoy doing.
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Quote from: In a bad way on February 19, 2017, 07:18:13 PM
I am so at the end I read posts on here and want to add to them but my thoughts exceed my writing speed.
I feel done.
A ll hope has gone, I am empty and exhausted and can't even express myself, I am too depressed.
Maybe try again tomorrow.
Lets talk here then;
we don't need to add to other posts - lets talk about
you
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You feel overwhelmed. Too overwhelmed to express yourself.
I know that feeling, believe me! The way I would describe it - is that my blood felt itchy.
You gave me 2 adjectives - empty and exhausted.
How long have you felt these feelings?
Is it becoming more intense or less intense?
Can you give me an example of your thoughts?
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You gave me 2 adjectives - empty and exhausted.
How long have you felt these feelings?
Is it becoming more intense or less intense?
Worse by the day after 8 months, I have no hope.
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February 20, 2017, 07:13:52 PM »
I hear you. I seem to feel worse everyday as well.
I cant escape the pain. What are you doing to cope? We need to make an effort to bring positivity back into our lives... .
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Hope is everywhere and always will be until the end of time... Hope is posting here and reading here, and trying to communicate here. Even when you say there is no hope, you are making a case for hope, for yourself and everyone else here. When you put one foot in front of the other in your room and look around you, that is hope. When you get hungry and eat a little and clean up a little afterward, that is hope. Hope is everywhere within you and without you, even when you can't feel it, it is still seeping into you somehow from somewhere, you don't know. Then one day, you will look back and think you have thought about her less today than you use to, and you will start caring more about who, and what else CAN give you love, peace, and happiness more... .
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Quote from: In a bad way on February 20, 2017, 06:20:11 PM
Worse by the day after 8 months, I have no hope.
Could you tell me 5 things that you feel grateful for in your life? Doesn't matter how small or insignificant.
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hi In a bad way,
you do sound depressed, im sorry to hear that . depression really seems to make everything worse. just getting out of bed can seem like a monumental task.
are you seeing a doctor and/or therapist?
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Quote from: GlennT on February 21, 2017, 01:49:07 AM
Hope is everywhere and always will be until the end of time... Hope is posting here and reading here, and trying to communicate here. Even when you say there is no hope, you are making a case for hope, for yourself and everyone else here. When you put one foot in front of the other in your room and look around you, that is hope. When you get hungry and eat a little and clean up a little afterward, that is hope. Hope is everywhere within you and without you, even when you can't feel it, it is still seeping into you somehow from somewhere, you don't know. Then one day, you will look back and think you have thought about her less today than you use to, and you will start caring more about who, and what else CAN give you love, peace, and happiness more... .
I'm with GlennT... .although difficult to see sometimes. I will add something that someone gave me and I leave sitting on my desk...
Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burdens behind us. Samule Smiles
One of the remarkable things about hope is that it acknowledges a past and a future, but is encountered in the present. It lightens a burden in the present. It brightens the day in the present. It opens your chin in the present. It opens your mind and makes room for new possibility in the present. The impact of hope is immediate and forward moving. Hope changes everything.
I did not write this paragraph, I don't know who did... .but I read it everyday... .
I am sorry you feel no hope, and I understand where you are coming from, I have been there frequently. I suspect there will be more bad days... .but Never, Ever, Ever, give up. There is hope.
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I'm really sorry I've not replied it's just that I have too much to say and I am not a happy man.
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The only thing that has helped me take my mind off of it completely is talking to and dating other women... .That is the cure for me.
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You are feeling sorry for yourself. You are allowing the opinions of someone else to be more important than the opinion you hold of yourself. While you have that mindset then your ex still has power over you while you ex will not care and will be dating others.
Pal, I know it hurts like a motherfu... .I've been their and it is truely awful feeling but you have to find acceptance it is over and start showing up again for other healthier people to enter your life.
Accept the relationship is over and start thinking about who you want to be in your future and what qualities you want in a partner. If your ex really loved you then they would not be wanting to see you suffering but they don't love you, they just used you. So move on and find someone who deserves the best version of you.
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The only thing that has helped me take my mind off of it completely is talking to and dating other women... .That is the cure for me.
I have considered this and I think it is the only thing that will work/save me.
Problem is every woman I meet is not single.
Quote from: iceonthehorizon on February 27, 2017, 03:16:52 AM
You are feeling sorry for yourself. You are allowing the opinions of someone else to be more important than the opinion you hold of yourself. While you have that mindset then your ex still has power over you while you ex will not care and will be dating others.
Pal, I know it hurts like a motherfu... .I've been their and it is truely awful feeling but you have to find acceptance it is over and start showing up again for other healthier people to enter your life.
Accept the relationship is over and start thinking about who you want to be in your future and what qualities you want in a partner. If your ex really loved you then they would not be wanting to see you suffering but they don't love you, they just used you. So move on and find someone who deserves the best version of you.
Same as above
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