We are officially going to court

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

He doesn't want to sign the agreement so after many attempts he had finally been served.

Passive threats are coming in and a lot of "how could you"s.

All that I now take with a grain of salt and only trying to protect my/our son.

[Dontknow88]

He doesn't want to sign the agreement so after many attempts he had finally been served.

Passive threats are coming in and a lot of "how could you"s.

All that I now take with a grain of salt and only trying to protect my/our son.

[ForeverDad]

Marriage is about love and future together positive emotions are so wonderful.

Divorce is about unwinding a marriage, best done separate from emotions, blaming, blame shifting and guilting.  Treat it more like unwinding a business merger, just the facts and figures.  Good lawyers are wonderful insulators from all the blaming and guilting attempts.  That's part of their job.  If his contact becomes too much, ask him to stop communicating about anything apart from parenting the minor children, if any.  If he still doesn't stop then ask your lawyer to contact him or his lawyer to officially make that request.