i could use support/advice

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I have been in this relationship for over seven years. I have been living with my girlfriend for just as long, minus the first two months. She just moved out (mutual decision), however she thinks i am moving in with her when my job is finished (in about 3 months). She is 1000 miles away now and i am just looking for support and guidance in case i (or she) decides to break this off completely. It is probably better for me to get out of this relationship, but i am still very much invested in her, and i have grown used to her tone and disappointment with me. thanks im just figuring out what is best, and how to get there.

[nicholas]

I have been in this relationship for over seven years. I have been living with my girlfriend for just as long, minus the first two months. She just moved out (mutual decision), however she thinks i am moving in with her when my job is finished (in about 3 months). She is 1000 miles away now and i am just looking for support and guidance in case i (or she) decides to break this off completely. It is probably better for me to get out of this relationship, but i am still very much invested in her, and i have grown used to her tone and disappointment with me. thanks im just figuring out what is best, and how to get there.

[schwing]

Hi Nicholas and

Why is it that you have "very much invested in her" but her feelings towards you might be described as "disappointment"?  I understand that seven years is a long time to be with someone. But what keeps you invested in the relationship?

Why do you think it is better for you to "get out of this relationship"?

Do you think that your girlfriend suffers from borderline personality disorder? 

Best wishes,

Schwing

[nicholas]

Yes she has borderline personality disorder... .when I say invested I guess I meant emotions. I love her very much, but her chaos and constant negative outlook has worn me down. So if I do in fact tell her that I'm not moving with her when the time comes, she will verbally lay into me. I need to be ready to block her if and when that happens. I have done some of the difficult part already by moving her out of my house. So I will just need support if we do in fact break up... .and honestly if we stay together for that matter too. Thanks for the time and guidance. I care for her like a husband/big brother/best friend... .but I'm just tired of her demeaning nature to 90% of the world. Thanks