Feeling sad and worried

[Bluewater60]

Hi I'm a 60 year old mother and wife and grandmother love my family very much but I find I cannot switch off from my son's mental health problems,he is 36 and has suffered with BPD for many years and I now don't seem to enjoy my life as much as I should because I feel his sadness and dispair.I've not done this before hope I've said enough.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Naughty Nibbler]

Welcome Bluewater60:   

I'm sorry your son has BPD and that it is causing you great sadness and despair.   We are glad that you joined the community.  You can find support here from others who can identify with what you are going through.

Is your son getting therapy/treatment for his BPD?  Is he the father of your grandchild?  How is he functioning in life (work, marriage?).

There are some links in the right-hand margin to a lot of great communication tools that can help you interact better with your son.  If you are able to share some more details, we can suggest some specific skills to try.

We look forward to hearing more of your story.   


 

[Mutt]

Hi Bluewater60,



I'd like to join Naughty Nibbler and welcome you to bpdfamily. Is your son an only child? You're not alone in this, it helps to share that sadness and despair with others that understand BPD. It helps to talk.