Hey ANL, Seems like you reached your limit, which is a good thing, in my view. You sound confident about making a change. You're lucky to have family nearby who care about you. I suspect that you are going to need their support as you go forward. How long have you been married? Do you have children? What makes you think your W has BPD? Fill me in, when you can. LJ
Hi LJ,
Yes i have reached My limit and just feels enough is enough.
We have been married for four years and have two kids s2 and s4 months.
We have been together for 12 years in total and for about 10 years she has been verbally and physicly abusive against me.
The reason why i think she has BPD is the emotional rollercoaster, the circle argumentations, her rage is often way out of proportion, she is a typical i hate you!, don't leave me.
I realized when all this came up to surface that it's not up to me to be responsible for her actions and doings. And this is probably the biggest win for me since i stayed with her since it was up to me to handle all of her emotions and feelings.
Now i just feel that i can't do this and i Will do anything to make sure My kids have a good childhood but it Will not be with their two parents living together.
ANL