What to do next...thank you for any advice you have

[blueblue12]

Greetings,
I am currently in a broken relationship/marriage. After ten years together we sold the house and stayed apart for a few months, all along getting well and communicating. I then went NC and my ex panicked. I stayed NC for a few months as I couldn't handle the heartache any longer. After a reply to one of her emails and requests she came back full on. We had a wonderful get together in which she cried uncontrollably while telling me how much she had missed me and how I was the love of her life and we had to start again! Well I wasn't sure because last year she had truly moved on. But we were back for a time. She was troubled as she had gone through some traumatic issues. I was a tad insensitive I feel now and expected things to start right there and then. Well they didn't and some arguments ensued.

I am now keeping away a little and we communicate sparingly. I received a note a few days ago that said "I missed you so much xxxx". Today I felt so strange. I kept thinking of what my T said the other day "she is not the enemy." I had to text her and just asked "hope you are doing ok x" to which she promptly replied "without you? I'll never be doing ok xxx"... .well that just broke me up again. I miss her so much but things are just so quiet and random... .it's so hard... .what to do? Any thoughts would be gladly received. Thank you.

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[Herodias]

You just have to decided if you are up to another go around with her and chance the same thing happening again. Are you up for that? Read some of the posts of people who have tried again if you need some examples of how it can go. Does your T know about BPD?