My 25yo wife, undiagnosed BPD or something, need advice living/w BPD

[Woogieboogie]

 Background:

Im a 25yo male we met senior year in highschool. She was sick then, kidney issues and missed tona of school throughout hs, but was a straight A student. Exceedingly nice and easy to get along with, shes an adorable little blonde girl you couldnt help but love her. Drama with the familys was our only problem for the longest time. She moved in to my parents with me a month after HS. Got married 3 years later. About 6 month after the wedding she had this bout of insomnia that last like a week before she hallucination that her parents were hiding in my parents room. Then flooded with fear and anxiety of every negative thing that ever happened it was all she could think about. We ended up seeing a psychiatrist who called it an episode as far as i know there was no other diagnoses. She got lorazepam .5mg as needed so like half a one during the day and 1-2 at bedtime depending on her ability to sleep. Took a long time but no more than a couple months before she was "normal" again. This was 2 years ago. She hadnt had any medical issues since hs except birthcontrol changes and recently as of 6 months ago IBS-D, i think it could be stress we have been renting a place and i finished school not long ago B.S in Finance. So we have debt shes working full time want to go to school im looking for a job and shes got this embarrassing and painful IBS with stomach cramps and all that. About 2 weeks ago she started becoming extremely stressed about money and started not making sense, mostly when talking and not following a conversation responding with stuff out of the blue. And you could tell she was extremely anxious. So we get into a fight she spends a week at her parents and i figure it was a nice cool off. And it was for about a week. Shes now suffering more than ive ever seen and harder to help than ever. Shes not violent but shes agressive and has wild mnood swings balling one minute pushing me away the next. Shes only sometimes away something wrong other times she insists agrily that she is fine. I cant get to the psychiatrist she saw 2 years ago for about 4 more days... I know the post was all over idn what or how much people need to know to help me and her. Im very empathetic with her and know when shes nasty its not her at all but to i let her know when shes acting that way or ignore it. When she talks to herself or does crazy hand motions to the tv or music shes listening to do i try to stop that? ( the hand tbing seems like an attempt to communicate she says i know what certain hand signals mean but its all in her head) shes having conversations in her head or to her self to seems like mach agruments she anticipated having with me or her parents but idk. Shes also on a few meds and was on an antideppresant but for ibsd it was diphenoxy/atrop 2.5/.025mg but stopped taking that one. She was also on a birthcontrol pill as well as the iud thing so double birthcontrol she just a few days ago got the iud out and that was in for 3 years. Still on ths pill... All over the place i apologize and thank you for any help. 

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[Mutt]

Hi woogiebooie, 



I'd like to welcome you to the family. I'm glad that you've found us, I can tell that you care very much for her, you're trying to get help before you make the P appointment, I can understand how difficult it would be to watch someone that you love go through this. My advice is if she's harming herself, take her to the local hospital or call your local emergency services. It's 's something that she's going through at the moment, it's not personal to you although I understand it can easier said than done to depersonalize the behaviors.

The P said that she had episode the last time, was she diagnosed with BPD? I just want to say that it helps to talk to others that can relate with you and offer you guidance and support, you're not alone.