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My ex BPD gf ended the relationship in march, after an intense 12 months. During which time she ended it 3 times, but never for longer than 2 weeks each time. But March was the end and she told me never to contact her again, which I didn't, but she contacted me I went round and she verbally attacked me, and I never saw her again.
I was off fake book for 3 months and went back on it last week and posted a really nice comment on her page, in relation to a post she put on. She blocked me. So much for 'I'll always love you and be there for you whatever happens'.
So I got blocked moved on and was ok.
Yesterday I got a Facebook messenger message from her mum, she wrote 'Thank you again for such nice comments and mostly thank you for being such a good friend and supporting ****** x'.
I told her we weren't friends anymore and I hadn't heard from her and was blocked on Facebook. Her mum didn't give much of a response.
My ex is very close to her mum, and I got the impression that mum thinks I'm still on the scene when I haven't been for some time.
And I've never met her mum not spoken to her. I have sent her 1 text message last year and a Christmas card, that's it? So was surprised she contacted me.
Any thoughts as to why mums contacted me or what's going on?
Am I being over sensitive or is something going on re possible attempt at re-engaging me, and why doesn't my ex do it, why get her mummy to do it
Thanks for any advice and thoughts
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remember, a recycle takes two willing participants.
it sounds like her mother appreciated your comment and thanked you for it.
what do you think?
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It doesn't sound like one. It sounds like a sincere reach out.
You did the right thing in this situation being you respected and liked her mum. You kindly responded.
I wouldn't put much extra thought into it. You were and are liked. That's a nice thing to hear, right?
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