My 18 year old daughter with BPD refuses treatment and has run away.

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My daughter was diagnosed recently with BPD. She was hospitalized because of extremely irrational behavior. She was threatening suicide, lying about her father and I, telling others that we abused and neglected her, and ran away multiple times in one week to go live with her boyfriend. She tried to drop out of high school and refuses to get medical treatment for her BPD/anxiety/depression and lied about going to the doctor for birth control. I feel an overwhelming sense of loss and sadness since these events have occurred and since her behaviors have escalated. The only control that I had was over her cell phone and car, which I pay for so I took them away since she has not complied with our expectation of going to school and going to her doctors appointments. Feeling a sense hopelessness. No one in my family understands and believes that she is just being a rebellious teenager. Even my husband is in denial over the diagnosis.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

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The impulsive behaviour is the hardest for me to understand too.  The fact that she's 18 is so difficult too, because technically she's an adult (although it's hard for us to accept when we see they're in pain and need help). 

Does your daughter admit that she has BPD?  I wonder if that was why it was different for me... .she actually came to me and said she thought she had it .   Up until then we thought it was anxiety and depression.

I'm hoping that this forum will be a support for us as parents.  It's so difficult!  I read a book that my daughter's psychiatrist recommended called "Stop walking on Eggshells" by Paul T Mason and Randi Krueger.  It's pretty good. 

Hoping you have a better day today!