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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« on: August 18, 2017, 12:37:37 PM »

Is it possible to be split and the same person acting friendly towards you at the same time?. When I pick up my son from my ex she seems helpful and friendly. I also know she harbors deep resentment which sometimes manifest itself with her acting cold and indifferent.

Today I feel like I got both treatments at the same time which I found odd. She was very helpful offering to help get a new auto chair, even asking if I wanted a banana to give him to eat tonight at he same time with her being cold, distant and in a bad mood, which I could tell on her facial expression. She looked pissed.

I know she hates my guts for leaving the way I did. Yet she sometimes tries to get me to converse with her as I'm about to leave
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« Reply #1 on: August 18, 2017, 12:49:33 PM »

it would seem to be this is less about splitting, and more about trying to be a constructive co-parent and have a friendly relationship, in spite of her resentments. while it can be difficult, many exes that share children get there.

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« Reply #2 on: August 18, 2017, 12:55:12 PM »

it would seem to be this is less about splitting, and more about trying to be a constructive co-parent and have a friendly relationship, in spite of her resentments. while it can be difficult, many exes that share children get there.

Thanks that makes me feel better. I always worry about the dreaded split. I can live with resentment. Thankfully she is a very responsible mom, something she's always taken very seriously. She has always been a good co-parent to her ex husband even though he cares little for his own kids.

I'll take constructive co-parent and run with that
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