BPD divorce and then BPD Ex-Girlfriend?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

 My ex-wife has undiagnosed borderline personality sorter. During our divorce, I met someone who became my best friend. She seems genuine and loving and caring and then expect to have a relationship with her at all. Over the course  A few months she ended up breaking up with her boyfriend and wanted to start dating me. I was probably the best boyfriend I have ever been and I let a lot of red flags go that I normally wouldn't have.  I didn't think that I can meet somebody like my ex-wife while divorcing my ex-wife.

 The lying was there in the way that she lied and  everybody else was to blame for previous break ups and she had excuses for every reason that she cheated with them and I believed it or excepted it because I thought she was the victim. Well, I want to believe that she was the victim. She told me that she wanted to move in and marry me and she met my kids and I'm at hers and XX's family is in etc. etc.  five hours after kissing my kids goodbye she was talking to her ex-boyfriend and two weeks later they were married. She never sat down have a conversation with me, she texted and pretty much blamed me for the break up  and lie to everybody else about everything that was going on. If the relationship and hit the marriage night to leave still is hot in the marriage from friends and family and give me nothing but attitude since I knew that she was doing something wrong.

 This is a hard one to get over that my ex-wife because I kind of expected it out of my ex-wife and that's why I didn't expect it all. She wasn't supposed to do this. She had every single quality I was looking for and somebody excepts when she didn't. I know no one can actually diagnose this but there's a lot more that goes  into it many of the same attributes that my ex-wife had, she has and I was the other guy that fell for the lines. It's been three weeks now  since you left and I still have trouble with it. One day she supposed to marry me in the next day she's gone. I know my therapist says that she'll be back but I don't know if she will lend me and my kids aren't going through another one of those relationships but I will be there to help her if she needs it. However, I doubt she'll take it. Yes I just don't know how to feel anymore and how I met someone like that while I was divorce my ex-wife

[MarkMo]

 My ex-wife has undiagnosed borderline personality sorter. During our divorce, I met someone who became my best friend. She seems genuine and loving and caring and then expect to have a relationship with her at all. Over the course  A few months she ended up breaking up with her boyfriend and wanted to start dating me. I was probably the best boyfriend I have ever been and I let a lot of red flags go that I normally wouldn't have.  I didn't think that I can meet somebody like my ex-wife while divorcing my ex-wife.

 The lying was there in the way that she lied and  everybody else was to blame for previous break ups and she had excuses for every reason that she cheated with them and I believed it or excepted it because I thought she was the victim. Well, I want to believe that she was the victim. She told me that she wanted to move in and marry me and she met my kids and I'm at hers and XX's family is in etc. etc.  five hours after kissing my kids goodbye she was talking to her ex-boyfriend and two weeks later they were married. She never sat down have a conversation with me, she texted and pretty much blamed me for the break up  and lie to everybody else about everything that was going on. If the relationship and hit the marriage night to leave still is hot in the marriage from friends and family and give me nothing but attitude since I knew that she was doing something wrong.

 This is a hard one to get over that my ex-wife because I kind of expected it out of my ex-wife and that's why I didn't expect it all. She wasn't supposed to do this. She had every single quality I was looking for and somebody excepts when she didn't. I know no one can actually diagnose this but there's a lot more that goes  into it many of the same attributes that my ex-wife had, she has and I was the other guy that fell for the lines. It's been three weeks now  since you left and I still have trouble with it. One day she supposed to marry me in the next day she's gone. I know my therapist says that she'll be back but I don't know if she will lend me and my kids aren't going through another one of those relationships but I will be there to help her if she needs it. However, I doubt she'll take it. Yes I just don't know how to feel anymore and how I met someone like that while I was divorce my ex-wife

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She had every single quality I was looking for and somebody excepts when she didn't.

hi MarkMo,

you also say that she had a lot of red flags you overlooked, and list some behaviors that you found curious or off putting.

can you tell us more about that?