I am kicked out of the home

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I am totally freaking out! My husband moved out 3 weeks ago, seemed like it was going to be smooth but it has been a mess. We got into a huge fight after he moved out. I found a bunch of tools that I am pretty sure he has stolen. I got a hold of his family and they thought so too. I know I over reacted. He ended up canceling my phone, turning off the internet and then served my with a protection order that was a lie. I was kicked out of the home, that he was not even living in. We had not talked for 2 weeks. So he is in the RV and has me kicked out. I went through this in a week, I had to miss so much work and all my family was so worried. The next day(i missed another day of work) he was so calm with a family member, he said I could return to the house. He said he did it because he was worried about his stuff. Crazy part of this is he could have come at any time to get his things. He did not have a protection order, or anything. Well I had to have my attorney file a paper to drop all charges, and he need to sign before I could return to my home. Well he did all that and went on vacation... .He had a false protection order to throw me out so the house and then the left the house with know one in it . He told my brother he knows the divorce is happening and just wants what was his. I am so anxious, and on the verge of a break down. This sounds so crazy, but I go through being okay and then feeling so rejected. I do not know how I got this unstable, I can not believe that I am obsessing on if he has found someone else. I wanted him to leave, I still has a tiny bit of hope that I was wrong and this is just a nightmare. Now I am stuck with feeling like such a looser, and for the love of pete sad... .I wonder if all the things that I accused him of are me being crazy. I went to my therapist today and that made me more anxious. I keep thinking what if I am the one who is creating this. I was ok and then I go nuts in my head, I even want to call him. Helppppppppppppp

[confused4now]

I am totally freaking out! My husband moved out 3 weeks ago, seemed like it was going to be smooth but it has been a mess. We got into a huge fight after he moved out. I found a bunch of tools that I am pretty sure he has stolen. I got a hold of his family and they thought so too. I know I over reacted. He ended up canceling my phone, turning off the internet and then served my with a protection order that was a lie. I was kicked out of the home, that he was not even living in. We had not talked for 2 weeks. So he is in the RV and has me kicked out. I went through this in a week, I had to miss so much work and all my family was so worried. The next day(i missed another day of work) he was so calm with a family member, he said I could return to the house. He said he did it because he was worried about his stuff. Crazy part of this is he could have come at any time to get his things. He did not have a protection order, or anything. Well I had to have my attorney file a paper to drop all charges, and he need to sign before I could return to my home. Well he did all that and went on vacation... .He had a false protection order to throw me out so the house and then the left the house with know one in it . He told my brother he knows the divorce is happening and just wants what was his. I am so anxious, and on the verge of a break down. This sounds so crazy, but I go through being okay and then feeling so rejected. I do not know how I got this unstable, I can not believe that I am obsessing on if he has found someone else. I wanted him to leave, I still has a tiny bit of hope that I was wrong and this is just a nightmare. Now I am stuck with feeling like such a looser, and for the love of pete sad... .I wonder if all the things that I accused him of are me being crazy. I went to my therapist today and that made me more anxious. I keep thinking what if I am the one who is creating this. I was ok and then I go nuts in my head, I even want to call him. Helppppppppppppp

[Mutt]

Hi confused4now,

I am so anxious, and on the verge of a break down. This sounds so crazy, but I go through being okay and then feeling so rejected. I do not know how I got this unstable, I can not believe that I am obsessing on if he has found someone else.

This feels bad, it is a normal body reaction. It will pass. You're not alone, many of us have experienced anxiety, anxiety is normal, it's to warn you of potential hazards, anxiety can also help, for example when we're prepping for exam. It can get in the way when it doesn't shut itself off.  We over-estimate our feelings and under-estimate our abilities to cope with it. Has your T shown you coping strategies?