A pwBPD need someone that's caretaker someone that fixes things for them, I think that what you might trying to say is that you probably didn't feel anything inside of you because you couldn't, you were emotionally exausted from all of the crises . As caretakers we tend to overlook our feelings and needs and we worry about what other people feel and tend to their needs at our expense. My point is that we over extend ourselves and may feel drained physically and emotionally. What do you think?
Yes, that's what I exactly did. I care about people more than myself to be honest, I think it's my personality. In my entire life I avoided to say 'no' to people because of their feelings.
I talked about self care, self care is really important to manage anxiety. I work out 6 days a week to manage and stay ahead of depression and anxiety, you don't have to work out 6 days a week. What do you for self care?
I care so much about self care, I care about my health and I can say that I am very spiritual. I started to do the things that I had to left when we were still talking. I do yoga every single morning, I started to spend time with the people around me. But one thing that is very helpful for me is yoga and I'm so glad that I'm back at it again.
Hi MelanieMe,
I'm so sorry to hear about the suicide. This is undoubtedly a life changing experience and deeply traumatic for you. I really feel for you. Did you know your friend before this happened? How long have you been friends for?
Hi, thank you for answering!
Yes she was there when it happened, it happened almost a year ago. We've been friends for 2 years. But such a FULL 2 year. We talked every single day not lying, every single day for 2 years. We had a really close friendship. If you look at our conversations, you would think that we were in a relationship. I truly don't know if she liked me because we were always joking about relationships AND I tend to joke about romantic things because I'm aromantic, I don't feel any romantic feelings towards any person. But I don't know what she felt.
Does the behaviour at the moment regards hospital and not being OK without you fit the usual routine? If so, let yourself off the hook as you've seen this play out before and know how it ends. Perhaps breaking the cycle with her will actually motivate her to seek solutions to her own issues for herself. Let's hope that genuinely does include some therapy, as this will not only benefit her but all those that care about her also.
Yes it is something that she would do and say.
I really hope so, she was always so negative about getting better but maybe this will help her seek help.
