Hi PeacefulCareBear,
Self protection makes sense, you accepted that he has BPD / has been with others and your on friendly terms, my question is what if he goes back to others, are you ok with that?
He's actually recently spoke to me again and told me he wanted to make sure that I felt the same way about him since he's told me how much he loves me. I've told him that I do love him and that I want our relationship to work. He just needs to be honest with me and come to me whenever he's upset or needs to talk about something that's truly troubling him.
He's constantly in a state of confusion. Is this normal?