coming out of the closet thing was done years ago.
Awesome sense of humor, glad you still have that.
What a miserable situation that many of us have been in.
Since you have been around you have probably seen most of the tools, learning and self help things you can do.
For me it was about picking my battles. I would do the same thing, just say whatever to end the fight.
It came back to haunt me though, so be careful what you are agreeing too. If I would say something just to end the fight, then it was forever held over my head.
I looked at my relationship as a chess match, if I couldn't not predict or control her next responses I would not engage.
Sad but it was about surviving a relationship and hoping for better days ahead.
Sounds like you are doing well at picking yourself up, be sure to find some alone time, activities that gets you away so you can recover and stay healthy.
Could be reading a book, or bowling. I chose stuff my partner hated to do, on purpose. So there was never a question that she would decide to come along.
So for me that was anything that involved manual labor and I knew she was out. LOL