Hi JesusFreak,
I'm sorry that you are going through such a hard time in your relationship. Congratulations on 8 children!
My H has a very hard time with my faith. I think the black and white thinking that comes with BPD makes faith very difficult grasp with someone with BPD. To them things are either all good or all evil and wrapping their mind around the understanding that although we are believers that will still sin. I know my H expects perfection out of Christians and if he sees a Christian failing or struggling then it means that they are not really a Christian. My H can quote scripture like no other yet refuses to apply it to his life but will quickly use it against others. We have reached a point where I do not talk about my faith in front of him.
Has your wife left the house or is she still living there?
As for what happened with the job strike, I can imagine that your W was really really scared. I'm a working wife and I know that a few months ago my H's job was kind of shaky and I was freaking out about it. Knowing how scared I was I can imagine the fear your W had since she does not work and you are the sole breadwinner. That fear could really cause someone with BPD to spiral down. To someone with BPD feelings=reality and she felt like the world was ending so it must be true, even though the real truth was that you had plenty to make it until the strike was over. The biggest thing to do in these sceanrios is to
validate and
Not Be Invalidating Do you think she will be back?
Would you share with us something you think may come up in a future conversation and we can help you work through how to respond to her?