Low Functioning pwBPD--Not Sure Where to Post

[toomanydogs]

I've been posting all over the place--from improving r'ship to conflicted to breakup to family law.

Well, here I am on this thread. I have been thinking a great deal about what I want as H & I head to divorce--he initiated.

I will skip my backstory, skip reasons for wanting what I want, and jump straight into the question.

Does anyone know or can anyone point me in the right direction so I can research the question, but does anyone know the success rate of healing from BPD, when the pwBPD is low functioning? Never had a job. Except for r'ship with me, has not had a history of stable r'ships.

I am not sure at this point of H's motivation, which would be key. But any knowledge, direction would be most appreciated.
TMD

[brilntdsgz]

I can't tell you about success rates. But my low functioning D BPD/BiPD SO has improved... .somewhat.   And how he is now may be the best he can ever be.

Since I first met him 15ish years ago he is 1000% more aware of his diagnosis (all of them) he takes his meds as prescribed and is always willing to work with his therapists and support team.   However he can't hold a 9- 5 40 hour a week job and probabbly never will.  He is homeless and abuses pot to the point that whatever money he has goes to that.  He could do more with therapy & DBT skills but doesn't. He can not take care of his child - he can't get by in daily life without someone else supporting him.   He is going through a crisis right now so his imporvement is kind of hard to see - but when I sit down and think about it objectively he really is in a better place within his self and how he deals with/treats those that are closest to him.

I don't know if this will help - because everyone is different. But there can be some improvement - I guess it depends on if it is enough for you.

[40days_in_desert]

Is your H diagnosed with BPD or does he admit that he has a problem at all? If someone is not diagnosed and/or does not think they have a problem, the success rate will probably be close to zero. If he is diagnosed, I think it will mostly depend on effort on his end. There are a couple of ways to look at it when it comes to success rates. Overall population with BPD and success rate and those with BPD who are genuinely intentional about improving and success rate. So, if he is aware/diagnosed and is genuinely intentional about getting better, his chances at getting better and maintaining healthy relationships is pretty good. Without that, probably close to zero. Intentional meaning that he is seeking out the right resources and putting an effort to utilizing those resources. For example finding an experienced therapist with a deep understanding of personality disorders and DBT and following the therapy set out by that therapist.