mssalty, I was thinking "This is a guy thing," and then I scrolled down to see Tattered Heart had already called it. I have read about this as a guy thing, and definitely find it to be true in my life. We are in fact wired for action. I have learned that sometimes I need to just listen, and not give advice, but I'm a bit of a slow learner, so it took a bit of patience on my wife's part to get me to this point. I've found it really helps in my relationship with her, though.
I liked TH's suggestion to use DEARMAN. Here's a link:
https://www.mindfulnessmuse.com/dialectical-behavior-therapy/using-d-e-a-r-m-a-n-to-get-what-you-wantPart of it is reinforcement, positive reinforcement, which is a favorite with us guys. We need lots of it. Lakebreeze's conservative outlook is warranted, though. You might have a tough road, and might want to diversify your sources of support a bit. But it's totally natural to want most of that support to come from your husband. Take the long view. Gently, slowly, over time, keep working at it and don't give up! You might want to try "behavior shaping," where you positively reinforce even a small step towards the ultimate goal behavior. For example, you might listen intently to all the advice without objecting, then make a move to get a short amount of time to share your feelings, and give thanks/praise if that goes well. Try to progressively shorten the advice over a series of encounters using some deflections like TH has mentioned, and eventually you may get to the point where your feelings come first, literally and figuratively, and then advice afterward, or perhaps you'll hit the day when you just share feelings with no advice/criticism. Anytime he gets closer to the goal, you want him to think ("Wow, I'm brilliant, *that* worked out well, I want to do that again!"
This could take a long time. Progress may not be consistent, and things may backslide. Keep at it!