Hi Sailing,
I like your username. The waters really turbulent right now for you and I’m sorry that you’re going through this. There will be smoother sailing but that’s going to take time. I’m glad that you thought of us and decided to join.
You’ve been in a r/s with a pwBPD for a long time, you probably have a lot of stories to share with us. I’m looking forward to reading your posts.
Does you STBX work? I know no contact is hard at first, especially when you’re the one that initiated it. A pwBPD become frantic because of their fear of abandonment. I take that you don’t have kids together if you are in NC? Do you have a lawyer?