Just saying Hi there

[HappyHippy]

Just coming to terms with my feeling that my lovely man has got BPD. No diagnosis, but he has got most of the "symptoms" on the list. 

Just want to make sure that we can do this together and that I don't get hurt. He is relatively aware of his triggers (so am I now!) and can talk about his difficulties when he is calm. He has shown real commitment to building a healthy relationship so I am prepared to work with him on this (if he didn't I would not still be with him). However, it's not always easy so a forum like this is great. I will be reading some of your threads and hopefully get involved in conversations.

Much love and a very happy Christmas to you all.

HH

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[Tattered Heart]

Hi HappyHippy,

Love your name. You've found a great place to share and get support. I'm glad to hear that your pwBPD is willing to work with you on trying to be healthy.

What kinds of issues have you experienced in your relationship? What seems to be the biggest right now?

One of the most important things in being a relationship with someone with BPD is your own self care, reactions, and boundaries. How are you keeping yourself healthy? 

We have a lot of lessons and workshops that you can find on the right side of the page. To get you started here is one on The Dos and Dont's of a BPD Relationship

[Radcliff]

HappyHippy, let me join Tattered Heart in welcoming you!  This is a great community -- you will find good support here, and you can help to make it stronger by becoming a regular.  Have you read any books about BPD?  In addition to the online resources, I found it very helpful to read a few books when I first learned that my wife likely had BPD.

WW